A friend of mine is writing a paper on Homosexuality in Society and asked me to answer a few questions for her Re: My Sexuality. I took the time to answer so I’ll post the answers here.

What are your biggest worries about not having equal rights or about societies out look on homosexuality?

• Family organizations such as Focus on the Family.
• They are hateful and make accusations that aren’t factually sound.
• I fear them specifically because they have influence over a large number of minds that are easily influenced.

Are you out to everyone?

• Yes. I’m “interested in Men” on Facebook. It’s official.

Do you believe it is a choice or do you believe you were born gay?

• I’ve always preferred to be friends with females. Ever since I can remember.
• I think this is because I always identified more with females. Which leads me to believe you are born gay.

When did u first know you were gay?

• There isn’t a day you “realize” you are gay. Its a progression. I admitted to myself and fully “realized” when I was 16. That’s when I first hooked up with a guy.

If its a choice why would you chose to to be gay?

• I can’t imagine anyone selecting a lifestyle that is more less accepted in society.
• Some people attribute “electing to be gay” as a cry for attention.
• Most attention one would get from simply being gay is negative. An extremely small percentage of people would decide being gay is the best method to bring about attention.

If you could be straight would you want to be?

• No. I am comfortable being gay. If everyone was straight or for that matter, the same race, we would live in a sea of sameness. What kind of self-serving society would that create?
• I feel I was born gay for a reason. I just don’t know what that reason is yet.

What are your thoughts about not being able to get married in the state you live in?

• Being single, it doesn’t personally affect me. However, if I was at a stage in a committed relationship where I  wanted to be with one forever, I would want that relationship recognized and respected, just like heterosexual couples.
• Benefits come into play as well.

What places do you feel most comfortable and most uncomfortable?

• I feel most comfortable in liberal environments. Where the majority of people have been previously exposed to gay individuals and therefore don’t give my sexuality much thought.
• This isn’t because I’m ashamed of who I am, rather I don’t want to feel uncomfortable fearing the uncomfortably of others.

Do you most of your friends and family accept you being gay?

• If my friends didn’t accept me being gay, they wouldn’t truly be friends.
• My family is from a rural, conservative background. They support me 100%.

Do you feel accepted by society today?

• Unfortunately, I think that depends on where you live.
• I feel we, as in the United States, are making positive steps toward equality.
• I think societies acceptance of gays is dependent on their understanding. Which is directly correlated to their relationships with gay individuals.
• If you don’t know anyone who is gay you are likely to be less tolerant because you don’t understand them.

What was growing up like for you?

• I am from a liberal, rural town. I didn’t have a large support group.
• I was fully ready to publicly come out my senior year of high school (2003). At the time, I was president of the student body. I made the decision not to come out for fear of impeachment.

Do you ever see your self with children? If so would you try to adopt or try to find a donor?

• Depends on my financial situation. Ideally I’d like to adopt and find a donor.
• Adopt - 1
• Donor - 2 (one with my DNA and the other of my partners.)